Her Dirty Little Heart

Need some freaky tips to spice up your sex life? If so, you are in the right place then. Let me tell you a little secret, everyone has some type of question(s) about sex or they want tips. People always ask on my Facebook page, or questions box so I’m going to hopefully address information that has been asked about. Some people are just not comfortable talking about it with others, and that is okay. But now you can read about it without others knowing. Keep in mind though some things should never be done while under the influence.

Wrestle

Keep it simple. Start off with pinning them down and straddle them. Grab their arms and hands and pin them at their side or above their head. You can also come up from behind them and grab their arm/hand and twist it behind their back. You want to try and make the other person submit before they can get you to submit. You can do this before the clothes even come off and also you can do this just about anywhere. In the bedroom, in the living room, in the kitchen…you get the point.

Safe Word or even WORDS

In any sex that is anything but normal a safe word should always be available. You honestly do not want to hurt your partner so it is best to always agree on a safe word.

Find what you like

Everyone is different. Some people like vanilla sex, others like rough sex. Some types of sex will be meh while others will be amazing. Figure out what both you and your partner like. Then you can move on from there. Maybe you enjoy having the man be dominant in the bedroom even if you are an Alpha outside the bedroom.

Restraints

Now we are getting into actual “objects”. Some people are not okay at all, while others are ay okay. Restraints can be an iffy subject, but you will never know if you like them unless you try. Take baby straps and start small. When it comes to restraints the options are limitless. Below I will mention a few restraints you can use.

• Handcuffs
• Spreader Bar
• Shibari Ropes
• Collars
• Body Harnesses

Blindfolds

Remove one of your partners senses. By removing eyesight, it will allow the other senses to heighten. Honestly, you can use anything as a blindfold from a tie to a shirt pulled up over their head, or a towel or even an actual blindfold. Now what you do while the blindfold on is what is important.

• Tease with texture
• Tease with Temperature changes
• Move around while talking

Public Play

Remember Fifty Shades Darker? You know that scene where Christian makes her take off her thong at the restaurant? Yeah that is public play. Again, some are into that while others could never do that. But like I always say, you will never know if you are into it or not if you do not try it.

• Wear a sex toy while out in public on a date
• Not wearing a bra under your dress of whatever you are wearing
• Use words to do something – aka trigger words. Meaning trigger word is said you do blank.

Rough it (or them) up

You got nails? Then scratch the crap out of your partner. Some people are turned on by it.

Did you ever think about your mouth and teeth? Suck on them. Give them a hickey. Bite them. Nibble on their ear, nibble on the crook of their neck, maybe even on some sensitive parts. Bite your partner as they start to cum.

Are you somewhat strong? You could also pin their hands down with your own hands using your strength. Again, going back to wrestling.

Wanna be a little riskier? You can pull their hair. However, keep in mind only to pull hair from the back of the scalp (the pleasurable spot), not the sides. You do not want to pull hair where it will be painful. Remember you want this to be pleasurable. Also do not pull too hard either (unless you’re into that).

You would be surprised how something so small and simple can cause such a large effect on someone.

Punishments + Reward

Most people do not realize that when it comes to punishments they are actually rewards in somewhat sick and twisted way. Think of it this way, from punishments comes pleasure. Punishments = Pleasure. It is that simple.

• Spanking
• # of orgasms
• Pinching
• Tickling

Pleasure from Pain

Maybe in the end you are a sadist or masochistic. You may enjoy causing and inflicting a little or even a lot of pain. Masochistic is more the aftermath pain from a small light spanking that causes tingles throughout your skin vs a pain that makes you wince from a hardcore slap. Again, figure out what you and your partner are into and of course again have a safe word. If you are new to it start slow and gradually increase and communicate with one another.

Talk Dirty

So many people feel so weird when it comes to talking dirty face to face, even over text. But it can be such a turn on for some people. You want to build the sexual tension. And yes, this is one of the most asked questions. People are wanting to know how to talk dirty. I think in reality everyone knows how to talk dirty, but they just feel awkward doing it so they “do not know how to”. It honestly is not that hard to understand, but choose your words carefully. There are also three different tiers when it comes to talking dirty. You have Soft, Getting There, then Hardcore. With that being said I will just give you a few things you can “say” to your partner.

• “Just wait till we get home…”
• “Damn, you smell good enough to eat.”
• “I want you to tease me until I can’t take it any longer.”
• “I could spend all day between your legs.”
• “Just lie back and let me take care of business.”
• “Don’t stop!”
• “Relax… just lie back and let me make you cum.”
• “I want to dominate you tonight.”
• “Why can’t I have you like this all the time? You’re my new addiction.”
• “Tell me how badly you want me to fuck you.”

For a full list of things, you can say to your partner you can check this list out (Temperature Rising).

Xx

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